05 Feb
Evelyn COACHING, Neuroscience, Relationships, WELLNESS

Avoid Self Destructive Behaviour Starting Now

Avoid Self Destructive Behaviour Starting Now

Happiness may be a state of mind but for many people, it can be difficult to see the world with true mental clarity and this can obstruct the opportunity to be truly content and successful in life. If you’re guilty of self destructive behaviour or of self-sabotaging your opportunities, your thoughts and actions may be paramount. Often, your thoughts will have been shaped by lessons learned in life and through your personal experiences. Actions, thoughts and unhealthy behaviours can easily be formed without your even realising and they can affect every aspect of your life.

If you turn back the clock, you can see that when young, you relied on your parents and those closest to you to teach you the right way to think and act but the human experience is all about making errors and decisions and it’s a huge learning curve. Those around you may have been swayed by their own experiences- both good and bad resulting in less than healthy lessons being passed on. Perceptions are easily tainted. Worse, these perceptions can continue to distort. In essence, they turn into self destructive behaviour unless you learn to understand your thoughts and behaviours and clear your perception.

It’s easy to act to extremes. Some people struggle to cope with all of the obstacles in life, they react unhealthily to emotional turmoil instead of dealing with their pain, they turn to alcohol or drugs while others feel a need to rely on those around them, forming unhealthy co-dependent relationships. When there is an intrinsic need to seek approval, you only serve to lower your own self-esteem or confidence. When you try to please people, your actions are solely focussed on this action and it’s easy to lose your own identity. Remember that this is your life and others should not dictate the way you live it, handing over control means giving away your power.

Everyone has negative thoughts but do yours cause all sorts of self-doubts? It can be easy to listen to the never-ending mind chatter that takes place and often you may not be aware that these whispers are causing you to react irrationally. Consider whether you have ever acted impulsively because you have listened to your negative thoughts before understanding the true reality of a situation. You may have felt guilty and apologetic afterwards, but instead of living with regret, wouldn’t it be better to switch off these negative thoughts and learn to push them away before they do any damage?

Because life is constantly throwing obstacles in the way, you may feel a need to over -control your life and to hold on tightly to the reins, which will rule out a flexible approach and ensure you stick rigidly to your plan of action. The future will always be uncertain so when you try to control every element of your life, this will only cause your anxieties to increase. Try to take a step back and release the reins of control. If you don’t, you could miss out on some wonderful opportunities. Self destructive behaviour will hamper your life in every way, if you are determined to make changes, seek out the services of a life coach who can help you to understand why you act and feel the way that you do and help you to move forward with confidence determining what you want to achieve and giving you the tools to ensure your life is successful, balanced and positive.

Join us at the upcoming Wellness Retreat and explore you.

03 Feb
Evelyn COACHING, Neuroscience, WELLNESS

What’s Your Final Destination?

What’s Your Final Destination?

Have you ever wondered what you could achieve if you really put your heart and soul into it? Do you think you may be operating on only half of your true potential at the moment? Many people are and the problem is that their intention is less than focussed. Quite simply, most people don’t know what they want to achieve, they don’t know where they are at now, the starting point, let alone the final destination.

Are you caught in the quagmire of indecisiveness? Is your lack of direction a cause of frustration or are you simply stagnating waiting for a gift-wrapped opportunity? You may have an intense knowledge of what you don’t want, rather than what you do. You may feel frustrated in your career or are settling for a stalemate relationship and from time to time you may even wonder what else there is out there for you.

Does this sound familiar?

Never waste your true potential. We all have the talent and ability for success; we simply need to match enthusiasm and desire to the right goals. By setting objectives, it makes it much easier to achieve. They don’t have to be grand or costly, it’s more a case of listening to that inner you. The answer is there, tucked away inside, sometimes, it takes very little to bring those true desires to the fore. Ultimately, you have to be the one to pluck out your true calling and determine the right path to success. There’s no need to fall into a predefined path, unless that’s what you want. It’s possible these days to reinvent your life over and over if you choose to do so, there are so many opportunities, so many training resources, it’s possible to learn an abundance of new skills and try them all until you find the right fit.

So where’s your starting point? Perhaps you need to know yourself truly before you can move on with the rest of your life. If you doubt your skills or your self-esteem is low, then this could be holding you back. The solution is simple – if you want to reach your final destination you need to carve out a new solid starting point. Join us at the Wellness retreat to help identify your needs, build your confidence, re-evaluate and test your way forward. Learn more about the real you. Strengthen your foundation for success and feel confident in the person you are. There are many avenues you can take, one of them is The Enneagram. This forms more than a starting point; it’s the key to discovering the real you.

Whatever your future plans, it’s important to not rest too long; don’t let life pass you by. If the opportunities don’t come, then create them otherwise you’ll never reach that final destination.

Join us at the Wellness Retreat to create your own opportunities, live your passion, and fulfil your life’s purpose.

01 Feb
Evelyn COACHING, LEADERSHIP, Relationships

Setting up a Business – Instinct and the Enneagram

Setting up a Business – Instinct and the Enneagram

Have you been longing to work for yourself? Have you learned a great many skills and now are feeling the urge to make the leap of faith as a self-employed entrepreneur? Before you go rushing off to hand in your notice, throwing every resource you have into setting up a business, just mentally check off all of the requirements necessary for business success. Setting up a business is time consuming and stressful, it’s also hard work but you probably know this, even so, the reality can be very different than the dream for some.

Do you feel completely confident? Are you even ready for success and all the many responsibilities? It’s important to realise that when you first set out with the business idea, in addition to the long hours and responsibilities, and, if you’re going solo in your business, you have to have an abundance of strong skills. You need to have a well thought-out business plan which in the first instance will stand you in good stead. Mapping out your ideas and having a clear knowledge as to the direction in which you wish to take your business will enable you to create strong business foundations and to drive forward in the relevant direction.

But there’s more to running a business than being able to keep accounts, to set up a website or to have products to sell. You have to be ready to encounter a wide variety of problems and to trust your instinct. You have to be able to build rapport with clients and to manage employees effectively too unless you are going to operate a sole venture. Running your own business calls on many special strengths and attributes, some of which will be gained through the day to day challenges of business life. But, the most important quality is to sharpen up your business instinct and to be able to trust your decision making skills, and being able to neatly side-step any potential mistakes.

 If you have doubts about your inner resolve and can’t trust your instinct yet, don’t miss out on finely tuning this aspect of self, it will stand you in good stead in the long run. Study personal development resources such as the Enneagram as this will very quickly enable you to feel confident and to develop trust in yourself. You’ll feel more confident and self-assured within your new role but you’ll find it easier to build rapport with others and to negotiate when necessary. Your instinct will no doubt play an important part in your ongoing success so it’s imperative that it is as good as it can be.

Setting up your own business is worthwhile but it is important to give yourself a fighting chance. Ensure that all of your skills are in tip-top condition and then you can approach your business with an empowered sense of confidence and drive.

Join us at the Wellness Retreat to enhance your skills in building relationships and sharpen your business instinct

30 Jan
Evelyn COACHING, LEADERSHIP, Neuroscience, WELLNESS

Business Success – The Enneagram & Emotional Intelligence

Business Success, The Enneagram and Emotional Intelligence

Most business owners would agree these days that emotional intelligence is worth a great deal. This is because in business, people have to be able to work together productively and to do so; they have to understand their own motivations and feelings as well as to be able to interact with colleagues who may have very different viewpoints. This is why the Enneagram is so successful when used in the workplace and as businesses show real results thereafter, it is becoming more and more popular.

If you have never heard of the Enneagram, it is a tried and tested resource used both personally and professionally for developing greater awareness and emotional intelligence. Whether learned in an individual coaching or group setting, participants develop a unique insight into the nine personality types. Not only does this support the knowledge of their own type which is important for confidence but, it provides them with insightful information about how the personality types interact and affect each other. Importantly, just by working with the Enneagram, it’s possible to develop greater emotional intelligence intuitively.  

In the workplace, colleagues come together to develop new products, to troubleshoot or to learn new skills but each person will bring their own talents which may include technical expertise, strong communication skills or creative insights useful for product creation. In many businesses, there will be a certain degree of disharmony but through the influence of the Enneagram, the individual personality types can work effortlessly with each other building rapport and empathy and managing their patterns and styles of work more effectively.

Strong relationships within an organisation lead to business success and in turn, this leads to each individual being an important part of the whole. Whether working alone or as part of a team, there is a high level of understanding and an influential way of communicating and influencing, this all leads to more effective decision making, self-management and stronger results. Employees of all levels benefit from learning the Enneagram, as it improves their people skills and aids their settling into their role, content to work for a company that values their input.

All learning and development should be enjoyable and Enneagram workshops or coaching are fun and inspirational. The information makes sense however and is believable once a basic understanding is accrued. Attendees are able to see strong aspects of themselves within their personality type and to recognise traits in others. The information is highly compelling yielding many surprises which actually serve to make the development of attendees more relevant.

Join us at the upcoming Wellness Retreat or contact us if you have more questions

24 Jan
Evelyn COACHING, Relationships

How to be successful in business and save your marriage/relationship

How to be successful in business and save your marriage/relationship

Its seems at times like the minority people have both success in business and a happy marriage at the same time. The stats above from Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS) shows that around one in three marriages fail. The divorce median age group for males in 2021 is 32.1 years while for females is 30.5 years.

Why do marriages fail? Well one of the most common factors is the lack of time couples spend with each other, with their significant other and of course let’s not forget poor communication in their relationship. This is as normal for marriage as it is for business. So what does that mean? It means that to have success in marriage or long term relationship with a partner and to run a successful business it commands a lot of time.

It would seem that for most people it’s become a matter of sacrifice on one or the other, either to make a fruitful business or relax and save my relationship. This is a hard decision to make because one without the other does not equal true happiness and fulfilment in life. In order to live life at its best, to be truly happy it is crucial that we consider both. Unfortunately most people opt to work on their businesses, or careers and this usually leads to them becoming lonely and depressed. The question is can one acquire both of these at the same time?

Can I Create a Successful Business and Maintain a Happy Marriage-relationship with my partner at the same time?

The immediate answer is “absolutely YES”. The thing is for most people, they choose not to believe it is so, they think it is unachievable. People have believed over the years that you cannot accomplish this at the same time. They have this belief that, in their world, the wealthiest people most of them are alone and lonely, or there are always the others that are on their 4th or 5th wife or husband or partner on to the next one. This is because most people do not believe that they could grow a business together with their partners. Again, “what you focus on, is what you get, to the exclusion of everything else!”.

People have always wanted to go solo or with friends into a business venture rather than going in with their spouses/partners. Why is this? There is this belief that doing business with your partner will destroy your relationship. What often happens is that when you’re busy growing the business in the absence of your spouse or partner, your relationship can actually drift apart because you’re spending more time with others.

The ideal way to save and maintain a marriage or long term relationship with your partner, especially when your business is just starting, is to involve your partner. Together, dream about what can be, listen to each other and toss around a few ideas, look at the different scenarios and discuss the consequences, always consider the ecology of your actions, then you’ll get a real feel for creating and achieving success together.

The business will grow and it may become fulltime for one if not both of you. With this, it will build your trust, love and passion. The thing is, there is no role that you would miss for your partner to play in any kind of business, even if it is becoming a silent partner.

Having another commonality other than marital/relationship issues between you two, will obviously bring you closer and give you more reason to be together. There is nothing more beautiful than having a friend, a spouse, a partner and a business partner all wrapped into one.

 

 

09 Jan
Evelyn COACHING, Neuroscience, Relationships, WELLNESS

Perfect Self-Awareness – Perfect Life

Perfect Self Awareness – Perfect Life

Do you want a happy life and to feel totally fulfilled? If so, you need to be true to yourself and to be self-aware. This may sound odd, how can you not be true to yourself? But in reality, there are too many people who pretend to be someone they are not and who live their lives by the rules of others –whether that fits well or not. So from this you can see that it’s important to be authentic and to know who you are, what you want to achieve in life and, to determine just how you want to live. This means, self-awareness is not just important but essential.

Self-awareness doesn’t come naturally. You have to work on it and decide this for yourself. Learn to explore every aspect of yourself. As life unfolds, your experiences change you but the essence of you, that true personality type remains within and knowing and understanding your personality type will also help you to make informed choices.

It’s important to recognise your needs and motivation. We all have them, some will be basic and yet essential, others will match your personality and be intrinsic to your future happiness. Once you understand your core needs, you will be able to ensure they are met. Your values are important too and form a personal roadmap that will guide your decisions and actions going forward. Live life with integrity and your life will change-for the better.

If you feel unsettled in your life, if you flounder and find it difficult to make decisions or to live up to the values of the person you think should be, maybe your perception of your personality type is false. This needs to be reaffirmed so you can start to consolidate this core you, so as to act from a position of strength. This is easy to do and simply means studying The Enneagram, the most compelling way to bring your true personality to the fore.

As you start to live authentically, bring your self-awareness to your emotions. Allow them to rise and fall and go with the flow. Be mindful of them and notice any triggers that cause your emotions to change. Be kind to your emotions. They are a true essence of you. Equally, learned actions and experiences turn into frequent behaviours and although most are hopefully positive, others will be self-defeating and will impede your desire for true self-awareness and authenticity. As you notice your habits, begin to change those that are in contrast to your true needs and future self.

What really motivates you in life? Consider your passions and your motivations. Discover your sense of purpose and go all after it with true energy. Life is for living and for self-discovery. Too often people lose their way in life, they deviate from their truth pathway and in doing so, they lose a little of themselves. Living authentically with full self-awareness may seem too simple to be effective but it is the most natural way of living and it will feel good to be true to you.

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05 Jan
Evelyn COACHING, Relationships, WELLNESS No Comments

The Relationship merry-go-round

Life is complicated, but you probably know that already. Many of us grow up with the idea that falling in love is the most wonderful thing that can happen to us and it will make our lives complete. While for some people, the happy ending certainly does hold true, others struggle to maintain a relationship, attracting the wrong people. When this happens, we realise that an unhealthy relationship does not complete us, instead it causes our lives to fragment.

We often are attracted to the same types. This can be the underlying cause of all of the problems, but then, how can we be blamed for falling in love with the wrong person – again and again? Of course people look and seem different, but, underneath, certain character traits can be uncannily similar. Bad relationships will only dent your confidence and self-esteem can plummet as a result. Yet still we try to find that perfect other, the soul mate who will connect with us on an intrinsic level.

Take Linda who was unable to find herself in a healthy relationship. With a 7 year old son, she could see that her unhealthy love affairs were affecting him. Linda knew that she could not carry on in the same way, it was exhausting and depressing. But she was not sure how to change the way she approached relationships. Linda felt that she could not cope with any more emotional angst, because her son was also sharing the same myriad of emotions with her, and he was old enough to recognise her pain. They were so close that she knew she had to find a way to provide him with a more stable and loving childhood experience.

Linda eventually requested emotional coaching. Through her connection with her coach and with others who shared similar experiences, Linda began to see that her own muddled perspective of life and her own self-doubts were partly the reason why she attracted similar types and repeated a cycle of dating disasters. Once she started valuing herself again, she was able to see her way forward with much greater clarity. Eventually, Linda met a man who was genuine and open and warm in his approach to love and commitment, so, finally, she achieved the happiness she so desired for both her and her son.

This story is not uncommon. We can all learn from past events and errors in judgements. But some of us become stuck in a cycle of negative emotional trauma and we repeat this cycle over and over again. If this sounds familiar to you, it is important to understand that you are not making a conscious decision to do so, but rather you are choosing to allow your past experiences and limiting beliefs to effect your present and your future. It’s time to stop, and reflect and to seek professional guidance; sometimes the solution is that simple. When you have a new romantic someone, and they seem so familiar, you have to ask yourself whether there is a reason for that. Are you unconsciously picking up on some of those very traits that you need to avoid?

It can be difficult to get yourself back on the right path when you feel emotionally tired and hurt. Seeking coaching can be one of the most positive steps that you will ever take because it helps you to create new neural pathways and creating new patterns and embracing a whole new perspective. You are not alone in experiencing bad relationships but you don’t have to remain on the merry-go-round, you can stop it any time that you choose.

For more insights contact evelyn direct eo@evelyn.id.au

03 Jan
Evelyn COACHING, Neuroscience, Relationships, WELLNESS

Self-Development -In the Pursuit of Happiness

Self-Development – In the Pursuit of Happiness

We all want to be happy in life, to have that perfect career, perfect relationship and a life that is productive and richly rewarding but many of us find that it’s not so easy to live the dream. Sometimes we may feel as if we are in the wrong role completely, as if an actor who has been miscast and no matter how hard you try to assume the role, to become it, the end result always falls a little short of your own expectations.

There are many choices that need to be made in life but the pursuit of happiness is important. More so than working long hours in a career that doesn’t quite give you the satisfaction that you seek, or, working to smooth the flaws in a relationship that just doesn’t quite work in the way you imagined. You have to take responsibility for your own life, if you are not happy, not fully complete, then it’s up to you to discover why. There are plenty of self-development resources available, it’s just a case of finding one that suits you.

Consider what you want to do in life. By this I mean, what do you really want to do, what is that innermost you saying right now? It’s not about the job opportunities that are open to you in the present time; it’s about the career that would really make you get up in the morning without the alarm even going off. It’s the relationship that makes you feel good and where you can be completely yourself, honest, relaxed and supported. If your relationship is less than satisfactory, consider whether you really want to continue. This isn’t a ‘the grass is greener elsewhere’ type of attitude, it’s because you deserve to be in a truly fulfilling and kind relationship. Friendships are the same, surround yourself with genuine people.

When you ask yourself what would make you happy – do you even have a sound idea of who you really are? This might sound strange but actually, a great many people struggle with their own identities, focussing on weaknesses instead of strengths, or, bowing to the demands of others, never realising that to be happy, truly fulfilled, you have to make your own opportunities in life. Look around you; few people have their glorious lives handed to them on a silver platter. Those who do well often have a clear sense of direction and although they may change their views or their goals, they learn to spot good opportunities in life and to embrace them. Self-development forms an integral part of being happy and can start you on a journey totally unexpected.

If there is something a little lacking in your life and you are not sure what, try out The Enneagram – a self-improvement resource that is effective and surprisingly revealing. Why not rediscover the innermost you, strip back the layers and find out who you really are and discover your true potential? It can open up a whole wealth of new possibilities, not least to enable you to feel confident in your true identity. If you are in the pursuit of happiness, remember that it starts from within. If you like yourself, care about your present and your future, then it pays to nurture that inner you so that you can embrace happiness and feel true contentment.  

Join us at the upcoming Wellness Retreat and explore you.

23 Dec
Evelyn COACHING, WELLNESS

Two little souls

Here I share with you a children’s parable about two little souls, this story has been around
for a very long time and interpreted by many in their own way –
this version is by Neale Donald Walshe
https://www.sapphyr.net/largegems/littlesoul-thesun.htm

Once upon no time, there was a little Soul

who said to God

“I know who I am.”

And God said, “That’s wonderful! Who are you?”

And the Little Soul shouted, “I’m the Light!”

God smiled a big smile. “That’s right!”
“You are the Light.”

The Little Soul was so happy, for it had figured out what all the souls
in the Kingdom were there to figure out.

“Wow,” said the Little Soul, “this is really cool!”



But soon, knowing who it was…. wasn’t enough.

The Little Soul felt stirrings inside, and now wanted to BE who it was.

And so the Little Soul went back to God and said,


“Hey, God! Now that I know Who I am, is it okay for me to BE it?”

And God said, “You mean you want to be…  Who You ARE Already?” 


“Well,” replied the Little Soul,” it’s one thing to know Who I Am,
and another thing to actually be it.
I want to feel what it’s like to be the Light!”


“But you already are the Light,” God repeated, smiling again.

“Yes, but I want to see what that feels like!” “Well,” said God, “I suppose I should have known.
You always were the adventuresome one.”

Then God’s expression changed. “There’s only one thing…”


“What?” asked the Little Soul.

“Well, there is nothing else but the Light. You see,
I created nothing but what you are; and so, there is no easy way
for you to experience yourself as Who You Are,
since there is nothing that you are not.”


“Huh?” said the Little Soul, who was now more than a little confused.

“Think of it this way,” said God. “You’re like a candle in the Sun.
And, you’re there all right. Along with a million, gazillion other candles who make up the Sun.
And the sun would not be the Sun without you.

The sun, would be a sun without one of its candles…
for it would not shine as brightly.

Yet, how might you know yourself as the Light
when you are amidst the Light – that is the question.”

and the Little Soul perked up & said. Well you’re God. Think of something!”

Once more God smiled. “I already have,”. “Since you cannot see
yourself as the Light when you are in the Light,
we’ll surround you with darkness.”


“What’s darkness?” the Little Soul asked.

God replied, “It is that which you are not.”


“Will I be afraid of the dark?” cried the Little Soul.

“Only if you choose to be. “There is nothing, really, to be afraid of,
unless you decide that there is. You see, we are making it all up.
We are pretending.”

”Oh,” and the Little Soul began to feel better already.

Then God explained, in order to experience anything at all,
the exact opposite of it will appear. “It is a great gift,”

Because without it, you could not know what anything is like.
You could not know Warm without Cold, Up without Down,
Fast without Slow. You could not know Left without Right,
Here without There, Now without Then.”

“And so,” God concluded, “when you are surrounded with darkness,
do not shake your fist and raise your voice and curse the darkness.
Rather be a Light unto the darkness, and don’t be mad about it.
Then you will know Who You Really Are, and ALL OTHERS will know, too.

Let your Light shine so that everyone will know how special you are!”


“You mean it’s okay to let others see how special I am?” asked the Little Soul.

“Of course!” “It’s very okay! But remember, ‘special’ does not mean ‘better.’
Everybody is special, each in their own way!
Yet many others have forgotten that.
They will see that it is okay for them to be special only
when you see that it’s okay for you to be special.”

“Wow,” said the Little Soul, dancing and laughing and jumping with joy.
“I can be as special as I want to be!””Yes, and you can start right now,”
said God, who was dancing and laughing right alongside the Little Soul.

“What part of special do you want to be?”


“What part of special?” the Little Soul repeated. “I don’t understand.”

“Well,” God explained, “being the Light is being special,
and being special has a lot of parts to it.

Its special to be kind. Its special to be gentle.
Its special to be creative. Its special to be patient.

Can you think of any other ways it is special to be?”



The Little Soul sat quietly for a moment.
“I can think of lots of ways to be special!
“Its special to be helpful. Its special to be sharing.
It is special to be friendly. It is special to be considerate of others!”

“Yes!” God agreed, “and you can be all of those things, or any part of special you
wish to be, at any moment. That’s what it means to be the Light.”

“I know what I want to be, I know what I want to be!” the Little Soul
announced with great excitement.

“I want to be the part of special called ‘forgiving’.
Isn’t it special to be forgiving?”

“Oh, yes,” God assured the Little Soul. “That is very special.”


“Okay That’s what I want to be then. I want to be forgiving.
I want to experience myself just that.”

“Good,” said God, “but there’s one thing you should know.” 


The Little Soul was becoming a bit impatient now.
It always seemed as though there were some complication.

“What is it?” the Little Soul sighed.

”There’s no one to forgive.”

“No one?” The Little Soul could hardly believe what had been said.


“No one!” God repeated. “Everything I have made is perfect.
There is not a single soul in all creation less perfect than you.
Look around you.”

It was then that the Little Soul realized a large crowd had gathered.
Souls had come from far and wide ~ from all over the Kingdom ~
for the word had gone forth that the Little Soul was having this
extraordinary conversation with God, and everyone wanted to hear
what they were saying.

Looking at the countless other souls gathered there, the Little Soul had to agree.
None appeared less wonderful, less magnificent, or less perfect than the Little Soul itself.
Such was the wonder of the souls gathered around, and so bright was their Light,
that the Little Soul could scarcely gaze upon them.
“Who, then, to forgive?” asked God.

“Boy, this is going to be no fun at all!” grumbled the Little Soul.

“I wanted to experience myself as One Who Forgives.

I wanted to know what that part of special felt like.”

And the Little Soul learned what it must feel like to be sad.

But just then a Friendly Soul stepped forward from the crowd. 



“Not to worry, Little Soul,” the Friendly Soul said, “I will help you.”

“You will?” the Little Soul brightened. “But what can you do?”


“Why, I can give you someone to forgive!”

“You can?”

”Certainly!” chirped the Friendly Soul.
“I can come into your next lifetime and do something for you to forgive.”

“But why? Why would you do that?” the Little Soul asked.

“You, who are a Being of such utter perfection!

You, who vibrate with such a speed that it creates a Light so bright
that I can hardly gaze upon you!
What could cause you to want to slow down your vibration to such a speed
that your bright Light would become dark and dense?

What could cause you ~ who are so light that you dance upon the stars and
move through the Kingdom with the speed of your thought–to come into my life
and make yourself so heavy that you could do this bad thing?”

“Simple,” the Friendly Soul said. “I would do it because I love you.”

The Little Soul seemed surprised at the answer.

“Don’t be so amazed,” said the Friendly Soul, “you have done the same thing for me.
Don’t you remember?

Oh, we have danced together, you and I, many times.

Through the eons and across all the ages have we danced.

Across all time and in many places have we played together.

You just don’t remember.” 

”We have both been All Of It.

We have been the Up and the Down of it, the Left and the Right of it.

We have been the Here and the There of it, the Now and the Then of it.

We have been the male and the female, the good and the bad;

we have both been the victim and the villain of it.”

“Thus have we come together, you and I, many times before;
each bringing to the other the exact and perfect opportunity to
Express and to Experience Who We Really Are.

And so,” the Friendly Soul explained further,
“I will come into your next lifetime and be the ‘bad one’ this time.
I will do something really terrible, and then you can
experience yourself as the One Who Forgives. 



“But what will you do?” the Little Soul asked, just a little nervously,
what will you do “that will be so terrible?”

“Oh,” replied the Friendly Soul with a twinkle, “we’ll think of something.”

Then the Friendly Soul seemed to turn serious, and said in a quiet voice,
“You are right about one thing, you know.” 


“What’s that?” the Little Soul wanted to know.

“I will have to slow down my vibration and become very heavy
to do this not-so-nice thing. I will have to pretend to be something
very unlike myself. And so, I have but ONE FAVOUR to ask of you in return.”

“Oh, anything, anything!” cried the Little Soul, and began to dance and sing,
“I get to be forgiving, I get to be forgiving!”

Then the Little Soul saw that the Friendly Soul was remaining very quiet.

“What is it?” the Little Soul asked. “What can I do for you?

You are such an angel to be willing to do this for me!”


“Of course this Friendly Soul is an angel!” God interrupted.
“Everyone is! Always remember: I have sent you nothing but angels.”

And so the Little Soul wanted more than ever to grant the Friendly Soul’s request.
“What can I do for you?” the Little Soul asked again.


”In the moment that I strike you and smite you,”
 “in the moment that I do the worst to you that you could possible imagine
~ in that very moment…”

“Yes?” the Little Soul interrupted, “yes…?

“Remember Who I Really Am.”

“Oh, I will!” cried the Little Soul, “I promise!
I will always remember you as I see you right here, right now!” 


”Good,” said the Friendly Soul, “because, you see,
I will have been pretending so hard, I will have forgotten myself.

And if you do not remember me as I really am,
I may not be able to remember for a very long time.
And if I forget Who I Am, you may even forget Who You Are,
and we will both be lost. Then we will need another soul
to come along and remind us both of Who We Are.”

“No, we won’t!” the Little Soul promised again.
“I will remember you! And I will thank you for bringing me this gift ~
the chance to experience myself as Who I Am.


” And so, the agreement was made.

And the Little Soul went forth into a new lifetime,
excited to be the Light, which was very special,
and excited to be that part of special … called Forgiveness.

And the Little Soul waited anxiously
to be able to experience itself as Forgiveness,
and to thank whatever other soul made it possible.

And at all the moments in that new lifetime,
whenever a new soul appeared on the scene,
whether that new soul brought joy or sadness–
and especially if it brought sadness–
the Little Soul thought of what God had said.

“Always remember, “I have sent you nothing but angels

13 Dec
Evelyn COACHING, Neuroscience, Relationships, WELLNESS

Neuro Linguistic Programming – The Gift of Communication

Neuro Linguistic Communication – The Gift of Communication

Neuro Linguistic Programming provides the resources necessary for excelling in all areas of our life, from self-motivation through to increasing our ability to motivate others. It enables us to sell with confidence or to be able to communicate effectively; in fact, NLP can be used in any situation with great success. Whether you are new to the benefits of Neuro Linguistic Programming or, simply wish to carve out a new career using tried and tested tools, taking this first professional step will open up many new areas of potential for you.

NLP has its own communications model. It enables you to utilise the information from the world around you and to ascertain how this affects you and others in terms of thoughts, behaviours and feelings. NLP makes use of the way that we assimilate information through our senses, while much of this is done on a subconscious level; it becomes filtered depending on those limited perceptions including memories, experiences, language and even beliefs. When you learn the relevant Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques and incorporate them within your own life, it enables you to extend and to reach out to others, communicating effectively in a number of ways.

Many people are expected to be able to communicate effectively and yet, this skill that would seem to be natural and instinctive often lets people down. Within the work-place, this can be the difference between gaining that all-important promotion, winning a key sales account or, handling a highly pressured business meeting. But communication extends far beyond the workplace, at home or in social groups, good communication is vital. The ability to pitch your desire at the right time and in the right way will determine the outcome of any situation resulting in success or failure, this is why developing and understanding the NLP communications model is highly beneficial.

Quite simply, NLP enables you to develop that vital edge and provides you with the skill set required for unlocking your own potential and extending this to others as a practitioner in your own right. If you think about the lessons and skills we gain throughout our lives, Neuro Linguistic Programming simply provides us with the powerful tools that ensure we can gain mastery over any situation. If you have lost out in the past within the business place or even in a personal relationship, you will know that every experience can make you become self-limiting and if this happens to you, it happens to others as well. To be successful, you must know the outcome and then develop a flexibility as regards the behaviour and to extend or to develop sensory sharpness.

How often do we look back and replay a scenario over and over, sometimes mentally frustrated that we managed to make a mess of an important situation? With NLP, it’s possible to replay it but instead of feeling frustrated, instead, change it so that it becomes a positive experience. Visualise yourself in a winning scenario; look at how easily you were able to talk or communicate with others, communication becomes a fluid dance that enables you to interact in and out of conversations in a multitude of ways while increasing your confidence and your desired outcome.

When you learn Neuro Linguistic Programming at a professional level, it enables you to harness the power of your own mind, to become the performance coach that you desire and to ultimately, touch the lives of others in a positive and far reaching manner.

Join us at the upcoming Wellness Retreat and explore you.

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