03 Jan

Self-Development – In the Pursuit of Happiness

We all want to be happy in life, to have that perfect career, perfect relationship and a life that is productive and richly rewarding but many of us find that it’s not so easy to live the dream. Sometimes we may feel as if we are in the wrong role completely, as if an actor who has been miscast and no matter how hard you try to assume the role, to become it, the end result always falls a little short of your own expectations.

There are many choices that need to be made in life but the pursuit of happiness is important. More so than working long hours in a career that doesn’t quite give you the satisfaction that you seek, or, working to smooth the flaws in a relationship that just doesn’t quite work in the way you imagined. You have to take responsibility for your own life, if you are not happy, not fully complete, then it’s up to you to discover why. There are plenty of self-development resources available, it’s just a case of finding one that suits you.

Consider what you want to do in life. By this I mean, what do you really want to do, what is that innermost you saying right now? It’s not about the job opportunities that are open to you in the present time; it’s about the career that would really make you get up in the morning without the alarm even going off. It’s the relationship that makes you feel good and where you can be completely yourself, honest, relaxed and supported. If your relationship is less than satisfactory, consider whether you really want to continue. This isn’t a ‘the grass is greener elsewhere’ type of attitude, it’s because you deserve to be in a truly fulfilling and kind relationship. Friendships are the same, surround yourself with genuine people.

When you ask yourself what would make you happy – do you even have a sound idea of who you really are? This might sound strange but actually, a great many people struggle with their own identities, focussing on weaknesses instead of strengths, or, bowing to the demands of others, never realising that to be happy, truly fulfilled, you have to make your own opportunities in life. Look around you; few people have their glorious lives handed to them on a silver platter. Those who do well often have a clear sense of direction and although they may change their views or their goals, they learn to spot good opportunities in life and to embrace them. Self-development forms an integral part of being happy and can start you on a journey totally unexpected.

If there is something a little lacking in your life and you are not sure what, try out The Enneagram – a self-improvement resource that is effective and surprisingly revealing. Why not rediscover the innermost you, strip back the layers and find out who you really are and discover your true potential? It can open up a whole wealth of new possibilities, not least to enable you to feel confident in your true identity. If you are in the pursuit of happiness, remember that it starts from within. If you like yourself, care about your present and your future, then it pays to nurture that inner you so that you can embrace happiness and feel true contentment.  

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