13 Dec
Evelyn COACHING, Neuroscience, Relationships, WELLNESS

Neuro Linguistic Programming – The Gift of Communication

Neuro Linguistic Communication – The Gift of Communication

Neuro Linguistic Programming provides the resources necessary for excelling in all areas of our life, from self-motivation through to increasing our ability to motivate others. It enables us to sell with confidence or to be able to communicate effectively; in fact, NLP can be used in any situation with great success. Whether you are new to the benefits of Neuro Linguistic Programming or, simply wish to carve out a new career using tried and tested tools, taking this first professional step will open up many new areas of potential for you.

NLP has its own communications model. It enables you to utilise the information from the world around you and to ascertain how this affects you and others in terms of thoughts, behaviours and feelings. NLP makes use of the way that we assimilate information through our senses, while much of this is done on a subconscious level; it becomes filtered depending on those limited perceptions including memories, experiences, language and even beliefs. When you learn the relevant Neuro Linguistic Programming techniques and incorporate them within your own life, it enables you to extend and to reach out to others, communicating effectively in a number of ways.

Many people are expected to be able to communicate effectively and yet, this skill that would seem to be natural and instinctive often lets people down. Within the work-place, this can be the difference between gaining that all-important promotion, winning a key sales account or, handling a highly pressured business meeting. But communication extends far beyond the workplace, at home or in social groups, good communication is vital. The ability to pitch your desire at the right time and in the right way will determine the outcome of any situation resulting in success or failure, this is why developing and understanding the NLP communications model is highly beneficial.

Quite simply, NLP enables you to develop that vital edge and provides you with the skill set required for unlocking your own potential and extending this to others as a practitioner in your own right. If you think about the lessons and skills we gain throughout our lives, Neuro Linguistic Programming simply provides us with the powerful tools that ensure we can gain mastery over any situation. If you have lost out in the past within the business place or even in a personal relationship, you will know that every experience can make you become self-limiting and if this happens to you, it happens to others as well. To be successful, you must know the outcome and then develop a flexibility as regards the behaviour and to extend or to develop sensory sharpness.

How often do we look back and replay a scenario over and over, sometimes mentally frustrated that we managed to make a mess of an important situation? With NLP, it’s possible to replay it but instead of feeling frustrated, instead, change it so that it becomes a positive experience. Visualise yourself in a winning scenario; look at how easily you were able to talk or communicate with others, communication becomes a fluid dance that enables you to interact in and out of conversations in a multitude of ways while increasing your confidence and your desired outcome.

When you learn Neuro Linguistic Programming at a professional level, it enables you to harness the power of your own mind, to become the performance coach that you desire and to ultimately, touch the lives of others in a positive and far reaching manner.

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14 Sep
Evelyn COACHING, Neuroscience, Relationships, WELLNESS

Perfect your Belief System with Neuro Linguistic Programming

Perfect your Belief System with NLP

Your mind is powerful and it can work for you or against you. If you choose to make positive changes in your own life using Neuro Linguistic Programming, it can enable you to approach life much more confidently, to be able to overcome problems and self-limitations and help you to live a much more productive and successful life.

Everyone has their own beliefs. These can occur through experiences accrued as far back as your childhood, in fact, every experience, every discussion; every self-belief that was acquired through observation or through direct participation can shape your mind. Those beliefs can be very strong. In fact, they can control how you relate to others, how you view the world, how you cope, whether you are successful in your goals or not. They can and do impact every relationship, both personal and professional. The brain acts as a sponge. You are taught to behave in certain ways by your parents in the first instance, then by those in authority as you grow up. You learn behaviours from your peers too. This is fine if you are surrounded by well-adjusted people, who are emotionally balanced and who provide you with only positive, fair and accurate examples. But this is real life; all those you trust to guide you in life will have had their own perceptions changed by those around them too. It does not take much to realise that perception’s can be greatly tainted through time and by example.

If you are wondering how much your beliefs could impact future successes or failures, the answer is simple, you trust instinctively in those who teach you the valuable lessons in life, you have no reason to question their interpretation of right and wrong, especially when young. But it’s not simply beliefs; it is your actions too. As an adult, you may have absorbed enough negative perceptions that taint your way of managing in life now, and as a result, actively self-sabotage your own opportunities. Negative actions are not necessarily carried out consciously either; you can become programmed to act in certain ways. So things that seem instinctively right, may not be.

The great thing about Neuro Linguistic Programming is that it enables you to re-program those beliefs. Imagine how successful your life could be if you could move beyond any self-doubt and brush off any self-limiting behaviours? There is a very powerful tool within the NLP toolkit, known as ‘Reframing,’ simply, it enables you to analyse and re-program certain behaviours and perceptions, changing them from negative to positive. NLP is a huge topic though, once you start learning, you will be able to improve all aspects of your life. This isn’t about brainwashing; this is self-development at its most powerful. Change those areas that need it. Professional NLP coaching would be advantageous; it allows you to gain all the benefits of this powerful resource and through guidance can enable you to strip away the negative areas and to re-frame all the aspects that you now realise are invalid.

In essence, it reprograms your brain, but in a good way. There are an abundance of NLP techniques at your disposal and all will help you to become more confident, to have increased communication skills, to overcome obstacles in life, to progress and be successful in any area you choose. Changing negative perceptions and behaviours for positive and productive ones makes sense. Think of Neuro Linguistic Programming as a set of stepping stones towards those goals you most covet, try it and see the difference in a very short space of time.

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07 Sep
Evelyn COACHING, Neuroscience, Relationships, WELLNESS

NLP – Master Your Own Communication and Emotions

NLP – Master Your Own Communication and Emotions

When you embark upon an NLP training program, you quickly learn that it is all about communication. Bandler and Grinder, the founders of NLP modelled their chosen strategies upon those communicators who were achieving within their chosen fields and began analysing those elements that made them successful. They also researched heavily into an individual’s inner processing methods, studying how perceptions, belief’s and experiences played a crucial part in the communications process.

It became evident that each person had their own ‘map of the world’ and how they interpreted the information was instrumental in their becoming successful in work, socially and within their own relationships. Through life’s experiences, it became ultra clear that perceptions also became tainted and this meant that one individual’s attempts to decode communications could be very different to another’s who received the same information.

You would think that communicating would be simple after all; we communicate everyday verbally, in written format and through the power of body language. But when you think that we store all of the communicative signals and filter it in different ways, it’s easy to see how we can misinterpret or, fail to recognise important signals. The success and mastery of our communications and emotions rely quite heavily on examples shown to us at an early stage – think back to your parents or important members of your family as role models.  NLP at its core enables us to develop our language so that we can build rapport more readily with others by matching their language patterns. We can identify areas where we struggle and rebuild that map of the world so that any irregularities that currently make life difficult can instead become streamlined and a positive attribute instead.

Learning to master your own emotions, perceptions and internal processing is all a part of the life coaching and NLP practitioner course. Even with a basic understanding of NLP, it is plain to see how much more valuable the information is when as a direct result of professional NLP training. This is because the current experiences and emotions accrued to date, may muddy the significance of key elements and techniques but training with a qualified NLP and Life Coach Practitioner allows them to tap into their own communication expertise to ensure full comprehension and mastery of each technique.

It’s about self-development in its highest form. Only when you have gained mastery over these NLP techniques can you go on to coach others successfully. Re-educating your responses to familiar and formerly difficult situations can make a huge difference to your life and ultimately to others. It’s taking a look at your own internal hard wiring and reconnecting any loose elements so that everything functions more efficiently.

To communicate effectively, you have to learn to recognise the metaprogram patterns of others and of yourself and this enables you to not only make powerful decisions in life but to use these same skills to motivate yourself and others. This way you are in the perfect position to discover your own potential and to utilise it at the highest level.

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01 Mar
Evelyn COACHING, Relationships, WELLNESS

Healing From Bitterness and Resentment

Healing from Bitterness and Resentment

Have you ever felt trapped and helpless within a relationship? Do you feel depressed and unloved most days? You may feel isolated, caught up within a vortex of emotions and unable to reach out to communicate with your partner. Emotionally abusive relationships have immense, destructive powers; they have the ability to overwhelm and to make you feel undervalued. When the power within the relationship is unevenly balanced, you will need to seriously consider your options before healing can even begin.

When you become caught up in a relationship centred on emotional abuse and negativity, your life will very quickly spiral out of control. Some people are driven by the need to have control of others, they may not even do this consciously, but they are compelled to do so by their past experiences, their inability to succeed within relationships and possibly by past rejections. Whether it is a conscious or subconscious motive, their actions can be cruel. Your need to seek approval within the relationship may increase dramatically.

At times you may experience strong emotions of hate and bitterness, and at other times, may find yourself so desperately in love that it threatens to become all-consuming. If you are reading thus far and it strikes a chord, you may well recognise the signs. When you are so in love, you want to shower your partner with affection and to make them feel happy and secure. It is possible to be too loving, too dependent on your partner’s approval. Early signs often dictate a slippery slope to a very one-sided connection, where one partner has all of the control and the other starts to feel their own sense of self-worth slipping away.

Take Cindy. She was in a marriage for almost twenty years. During that time, promises that were made to her were often broken, and life became a trial of emotional abuse. She felt unloved, unwanted, and totally worthless. She would spend hours locked away in her room, desperately unhappy. She couldn’t talk to her husband about her feelings because he got angry.

Eventually, her own anger inwardly started to develop. She blamed him for making her feel so inadequate. Bitterness, tinged with depression was a heady cocktail that kept her trapped within her own isolation. Cindy felt hurt and betrayed by his lack of love towards her. How could he promise so much and then give so little? In her feelings of insecurity and low confidence she caught the voices in her head saying, he created these feeling in me and yet he still seemed unhappy.

Gradually Cindy found herself getting out of the house, walking for miles, embracing the beautiful scenery around her. This became a daily ritual and through the intense beauty of nature, she started to experience her own sense of solace learning that being on her own was not so bad. Through hours of reflection, analysing the past, she realised that somehow, without meaning to, she had given him her power and that she had to take some responsibility for the way she was feeling. Gradually Cindy began her own inner healing through her need for change.

In Neuro Linguistic Programming terms, everyone has their own ‘a map of the world’ which simply records each individuals journey of experiences to date. This map is unique, based upon your own perceptions enabling you to make conscious decisions. But, depending on those experiences, the map of the world may not always enable you to view life with great clarity. Sometimes you may think you know someone and yet your perception is fragmented. At times, through the trauma of emotional or physical relationships or through any type of emotional pain, resentment can occur and the map can become tainted often with false impressions gleaned by your understanding of how to react to life’s events. NLP is a resource that can help to change behaviours and thought processes so that each map can develop and change as the person grows.

Relationships are not always easy, but if you hand over your personal power so readily, you render yourself power-less, you must assume responsibility. When you forgive yourself and others, you start to heal and you learn a valuable lesson that life is not always as it seems to be and neither are people. Cindy learned to re-generate her own power and to move away from an abusive, intolerant relationship that kept her trapped for the best part of 20 years. You can make valuable changes to empower your own life too.

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