03 Feb

Which of the 10 questions is more important…

I want to share with you a radical idea on the questions you ask… Your results in life are largely determined by the questions you ask yourself everyday.

It’s not your IQ, or the size of your database, or Emotional Intelligence or even your experience that determines your success and happiness in relationships, work, money and life. Yes they all play a significant role in your success. But none more important than asking yourself the right questions.

Sound crazy? Maybe. But try this exercise and see …

Pick one question from the list of ten below.

Which question jumps out at you as the one you most want to answer in your life if you could?

If more than one resonates, that’s fine, but pick one to start with… the ONE that would feel really great to resolve right now:

  1. I wonder how I could improve myself today?
  2. I wonder what my body really needs right now?
  3. I wonder how I could have more fun doing what I’m doing right now?
  4. I wonder how I can have all the money I need for everything I want right now?
  5. I wonder how I can be closer to God, or my spiritual self?
  6. I wonder what I should do next that will bring me great joy?
  7. I wonder how I am best contributing to this situation?
  8. I wonder how I can be more creative today?
  9. I wonder how I can best fulfill my mission?
  10. I wonder how I can best serve today?

Have you picked a question? Please pick one before proceeding. You can choose one of your own if you prefer, but, do pick a question to get you moving forward.


Now take a deep breath… Exhale… Let go.

Next, sincerely and with a sense of genuine wonderment, ask yourself this question, but this time, wait and listen for a few moments for an inner response.

What did you experience? It might be some words or even instructions; it might be a positive emotion, a physical feeling, a hunch, or a new insight.

Why are questions so powerful?

Most if us tend to accept answers to life’s challenges and mysteries (with a little searching and questioning mixed in) from an array of expert sources, including parents, teachers, authors, doctors, gurus, consultants, family, friends, philosophies and religions of all kinds.

In my own quest for answers, I’ve dived into more expert resources than I can count. And while I pick up incredible nuggets of learning, wisdom and tools along the way, I also realise that it’s so much more than that. Here’s why. When you ask yourself a question, especially the right question, some really incredible things start to happen.

Firstly, forming a question causes you to focus your attention on an outcome.

“I wonder how I can get Sam to take me dancing ” or, “How am I going to pay the bills this month”? Or, “I wonder what I need to do to lose weight and be fit again? Whatever your question might be it may seem obvious, or not. But what is an absolute certainty is that “YOU GET WHAT YOU FOCUS ON… CONSISTENTLY”!

By asking questions, what is it you want (not what you don’t want) you naturally place your attention on your desired outcome.

Remember that funny little guy called “Einstein”… yeah the genius, that’s him he was into time and space, and the speed of light and all that stuff. And he was also one of the greatest philosophers that ever lived. He said, “if you ask yourself a question consistently enough, you’ll find the solution”.

Here are a few more treasures from Einstein:-

“Imagination is more important than knowledge”

“We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”

“The important thing is not to stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.”

Secondly, asking questions causes your awareness to expand and become open to greater possibilities. Feel the difference between the statement “ Sam will never go dancing with me” and the question “I wonder how I can get Sam to take me dancing ”.

The statement creates negative feelings of anguish and pain. Right?  It keeps you closed and stuck.

A positive statement can also be an affirmation, such as “Sam and I will go dancing” .

A positive question can create the space for new possibilities and accesses your greater talents and intuition to produce a superior outcome.

Thirdly, the answer to every problem lies inside you and the process of asking questions challenges you to be more independent and skilled at finding and making the right decisions for yourself

When you ask the right questions, you train yourself to overcome different kinds of problems in the future. And when you achieve your desired outcome, you have the inner wisdom to ask even greater questions and reach even greater levels of success… You have the Power to Transform Your Life!

Here’s a little something for you to think about…

“One who asks a question is a fool for five minutes;

one who does not ask a question remain a fool forever” – Chinese proverb If you’d like to chat… You know how to find me.